Reddit aita pool neighbor I think everyone looks at everything to gain inspiration and yours just happened to come from a neighbor. She was clearly very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene, just went over to where the parents were, grabbed their towels, dried herself The neighbors also came along with their children. So the next door neighbour has been filling a swimming pool. So the neighbors have lived in their place 20+ years and we’re good friends with the original owner and their kids who subsequently lived here. I had other very good friends with a pool. Anything the neighbor may have 'added' to the fence is property damage at best. I know the neighbors with the 15 year old better than the neighbors with the 10 year old, and know their son. Before the podcast started reading reddit stories, the hosts would choose a topic and research it using Wikipedia. Oct 6, 2024 路 "AITA for refusing to let ‘Karen’ neighbor use my pool after she demanded I follow her pool rules?" So, I (34M) live in a suburban neighborhood with a decent-sized backyard and a pool. true. For his 13 years he needed 3-5 baths a week and weighed 110 lbs- 5-10 lbs less than me. who dies on his way to the hospital due to cerebral hemorrhage. Also I’m confused by the people who think an hour is a long time. Title was going to be “AITA for installing a device to allow me to leer at my neighbors family pool because sometimes they use their windows?” Are we really to a point where looking out your windows will have you be labeled a creep and installing a giant mirror/one way glass towards a family pool is acceptable behavior? A place to satirize, crosspost from, poke fun at, and hold meta discussions on the never-ending ridiculous stories and creative writing exercises from AITA and AITA-adjacent subs, including classic tales of your local reddit heroes seeking validation. Reddit is a network of communities where people can dive into their interests, hobbies and passions. I(29f) am friends with my neighbor. His brother, Jay, had asked the day before if him and his family (wife + 3 kids) could come over on Sunday to swim after one of the kids’ sports games, which was at a park close by to us. What I do see a problem is they fill the pool and drain it EVERY SINGLE DAY. She has a few guests over noise complaint. We also followed this up with a letter to the neighbors and informed that the kids were not allowed to play, dig or draw on our property and sent it certified mail. Taking the posts seriously is heavily discouraged. I have never met anyone who has gone in a pool for less than an hour. I told her to move the car and she immediatly started arguing that the neighbor said it was fine, I told her he moved out, I moved in and no it is not fine and to move it because the movers need to unload my stuff. She painted the main part of it a gorgeous dark violet, and the fish-scale shingling near the top of the front windows is light blue, light yellow, light green, and baby pink. AITA telling people in our neighborhood about my neighbor spying on my wife? My wife (28F) and I(30M) bought my grandparents house a year ago. Some attitude received back from that. Kids are dumb. But how did a 5 year old get into a community pool by their self? Every pool I’ve ever been to has a fence and a check-in system. Everyday, I see a lady sitting on her balcony just watch me swim. The neighbor gets to enjoy his gazebo, though it becomes dad's when the neighbors move because my dad protected his property rights. I feel like i finally set my boundaries with my neighbors and I personally don’t think I did anything wrong. The fence is on OPs property, the neighbor had no right to put their plants up or paint on it to begin with. you don't have to at all, of course. We fit in the neighborhood or so we thought until neighbors from 3 surrounding homes and us got into a weird conversation around their expectations to access the pool for weekend and holidays pool parties. It's almost as tall as the fence, so you can see into it from my neighbours' deck and lots of their windows. It's now starting to get hot. At some point I was supervising the girls swimming in her pool and the neighbor mom said use the pool anytime. Since we moved in, we have been friendly with our neighbors and their children, but we don't join their activities. Posted by u/teijinator2000 - 7,144 votes and 298 comments Yep, an off-lease large breed dog in the pool area effectively prevents families with children from using the pool - it’s just not safe. in this case, you're I have 2 huskies and often found them chewing on hard plastic or metal parts. She is ungrateful and entitled, your other neighbors needed to know this in case one of them decides to help her too. ” The neighbors accused me of deliberately exposing myself to children and potentially traumatizing them. No means no. Not only does the pool need a gate with a lock, but you need cameras, No Trespassing signs, and to increase your Homeowners liability insurance. Put up an electrified security fence and cameras, and maybe even get a trained guard dog as a deterrent (this will also keep wildlife out of your pool, so they don't drown either); no doubt she'll try to get in again when you're not around. In short, it's not very private. They have barbecue parties, swimming pool parties and they gather with their kids etc. They installed a pool, that's fine, but here's where I've been having issues and has really soured our relationship: (1) The pool equipment was installed outside our living area windows (~12-15ft away) and porch. We've also had a concern for the security of the cleaning staff who come after hours. Yeah my parents have an HOA and suffice to say in under 8 years people have sued the HOA, the HOA has sued people, hell my parents neighbors (who USED to be their friends) trespassed on my parents property (which isn't even on the same street as these people) and cut my parents bushes (reasons unknown) and lied about it (parents have it on outdoor cameras), so these people made up a lie that Events are expensive and venues have limits. If my neighbor isn't home or doesn't wake up to come to the door she will knock and bang on every window and yell until someone comes open the door. The neighbor could cook up a story to get OP in trouble. " Which I did not either. 100% find the most gossipy neighbor and ask because if my neighbor said, 'oh neighbor won't let us borrow their custom wheelchair mobility van that they've been graciously letting us borrow over the past 18 months for two weeks (out of state?) so we can go to Disneyland because they need it for their elderly parent, I would not be on their side. I'm 8 months pregnant and getting pretty uncomfortable. I was definitely annoyed at this point. Out in the yard after 11pm noise complaint. The first few nights I was awaken and got up to unlock the door. I came home from school one day to find her in the backyard, she hated being inside when it was cool out, dying with a pool of antifreeze next to her. Old British TV show Keeping Up Appearances just flashed into my mind. They asked if my parents would be willing to tear down a fence so that the equipment could have an extra 3-ish feet in order to get the equipment back. Hi itchykneemy! I hope I spelled that correctly. Our neighbor is now upset because he “doesn’t have access” to his fence, that he would have to come in to my yard to access anyways. if you intentionally misrepresent how your property is used and then your insurance company finds out because of a claim related to the usage of your property, they may simply void your policy effective the day of its inception. get lost so we can use your pool. And what ever you do, don't plant a crape myrtle near it So everyday, around 6-7PM I go take a dive in my pool. * <- entitled people. This is Neighbor 2. Mike is a super creep. AITA for not wanting neighbors to have access to my property and seriously losing my patience with their expectations?” Now let’s see what Reddit users had to say. We put in a pool last year. One of my neighbors has a painted-lady Victorian house. It was shitty of the new neighbor to expect the rest of the "village" to help parent her kids, and to insult OP for not doing so. or if you were just trying to paint yourself as a friendly guy. The 6 per house folks aren’t doing it because there’s no available larger housing, or no smaller housing to split off into - they’re doing it because the local rental housing is overpriced mostly due to corporate buyers artificially inflating prices. and suddenly 20 kids are peeing swimming in the water. "Daniel" (34m). They argued that it's a shared space since our yards are adjacent. They just want to use your pool. A few minutes after they were done putting down their stuff, the woman came to me and said, "Excuse me, only people who live here are allowed to use the pool. She then asked if it was possible to keep the same arrangement going forward as her son enjoys it and it's become part of his "routine" which is important to him. " Now, normally I'm all for being neighborly, but this felt a bit much. More info: Reddit We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Congrats on the pool and the coming baby! As president of the HOA I get all the complaints. That always looks good on paper, but neighbors don't really work like that. Our neighbors have a pool pretty much right next to the concrete wall where the pool heater is located on their side of the wall. Then I caught their kids antagonizing my dogs at the fence. Oct 6, 2024 路 Absolutely. Confronting the neighbors 2) The kids are ultimately on their own property. Apr 5, 2025 路 Neighbors can be your best friends or your worst enemies. We're the only childless couple. and Mrs. " I figured out it was the neighbors car so after a good 10 minutes of knocking an extremely angry enormous lady opened the door. And send her a bill for the approximate market value of the produce that’s gone missing along with a “no trespass” order signed, notarized and sent via certified mail (keeping copies for their own records) so that the next time she comes “shopping” in OP’s garden they have their ducks in a row to royally fry her ass. I went next door and told their mom what happened, and said next time they could ask me to get their ball, because I didn't want them around my dogs, or accidentally letting them out. If one of those kids drowns in your pool, you will have the pants sued off of you. There is a 6-foot concrete block wall between our yards. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. 3 weeks later, I get this text from Neighbor 2 (who lives next to Neighbor 1): Hi itchykneemy! I hope I spelled that correctly. My neighbor across the street we will call him Ben, we are friends asked what they were doing. So, AITA? NTA. Not that the neighbor has a say in OPs fence, but telling him to like it or leave will do more harm than good. They feel entitled to enjoy OP's property and are mad about it. My problems started with my next-door neighbor Sophie(F50-60?) over fishing. The proximity between your home and theirs makes it impossible not to have some contact, and can bring trouble if you disagree. She kept doing it. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! The Asshole Universe is Expanding, Again: Introducing Another New Sister Subreddit! yeah no. If she wants a pool, she can get her own; a pool is neither a right nor a requirement but a privilege. "Hey neighbor, I wanted to clear the air with you and reset your expectations. She blows up at me and says I invited her at the beginning of the summer. The main lady, is a gossiping dominant woman, who is very pious and tries to ignore her lower income family, while being in denial her son is obviously part of the Rainbow Community. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. Pool closes at 9 - early for my preference - but that's the rule. Letting anyone else use your pool, especially children while you're not home, is an IMMENSE financial liability. ” Let's not forget about the puppers-the best way to take full control over and send a clear message is to build a nice tall fence (edit: one that strictly adheres to the bylaws of your assososiation of course- so no one can try and fine you or have you take it down 馃槈) and not even have to worry about the possibility or liability of kids on your property. She apologized for using the pool without talking to me, but had assumed the old neighbors had moved out but hadn't sold the place yet since I was still mostly living at my old place. The police advised sending a certified letter (for tracking purposes) to Neighbor B stating the daughter was not to use the trampoline. There's a community for whatever you're interested in on Reddit. The cop (and police chief who came out because the neighbors didn't want to listen to the cop) said there's nothing they'll do, so the neighbors called a detective (who then tried to get the poster to pay a $300+ fine). Well, the other day, my neighbor comes over all friendly-like and asks if they can use our pool whenever they want because their community pool is "too crowded. During the summer my dad and another family took care of the pool and we were given free access to it any time we wanted it. We are homeowners and have had some trouble with our next door neighbors. We just got in trouble by the city for that. Plus, you may consider Universal insurance coverage in case someone is injured or worse. I've welcomed and supported this neighbor tremendously - her asking for help and me volunteering. Any guy who cannot accept a no and keeps pushing is not a guy you should ever let into your life. Apparently, the owners before us had kids and were friends with the neighborhood kids. Lots of pool parties over the years, and there was only ONE other parent I met whom I trusted to watch my children, because she stood pool duty at their house pool and actually WATCHED kids swimming. OP doesn't need to justify any response, and if any neighbors are so emboldened to think they have a right to know the thinking or reasons behind the OP's response, they're overstepping and not being neighborly at all, particularly since they aren't offering anything in return, will cause wear, and could I had a beautiful Norwegian Elkhound when I was a kid. If they let kids play in pool by giving neighbor written approval (by text or email) beforehand stating which adult is in charge. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! I told her no and that I would keep my trashy pool in my trashy yard. One of my neighbors was extremely upset with the pool company, saying they frequently blocked their driveway, did a poor job of cleaning up the street, dirtied up the solar panels, sprayed rocks on their car, etc. 69 votes, 42 comments. When I tell her I am not comfortable being responsible for them and do not want them at my pool (I'd be financially responsible for the guest fee and damages caused by uncontrolled kids). and we don't really like the noise of kids, so we just keep our distance. am an adjuster. Our neighborhood was built in ~2016 which means everybody solar panels. But I would have done anything to avoid being the neighbors in the story, my dog isn't allowed to bark incessantly and I am not, well, a jerk to my neighbors. . X always let them do it, and again we explained that we were not Mr. I dont think I should have needed to consult my neighbor about continuing the fence on my property, but another neighbor that is friends with this neighbor says I should’ve consulted him first. I got a call on Tuesday from my mom saying that her neighbors left an angry note in her mailbox, because apparently they have windows overlooking the pool and the neighbors kids “saw a man swimming with no clothes on. Neighbor B’s daughter would use it without permission, even when Neighbor A wasn’t home. in a rural community neighbors help out neighbors. My neighbors who own the other quarter of the pond are in their early/mid thirties and have a 9/10 year old son. 2K different comments and counting. Reddit is Pissed A Couple Wants Their Pregnant Neighbor to ‘Cover Up We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. The appropriate answer to "why" is "why do you need to know". but that's the AH move. She never left our fenced in backyard, but she would bark if the neighbor got too close to the fence. Oct 6, 2024 路 So, I (34M) live in a suburban neighborhood with a decent-sized backyard and a pool. We also got a shitty neighbor, Jessica, who likes to go around and snap photos of people's violations and then post it on the next-door app to shame them. They definitely will not move but I am getting the cameras because for me I will collect all of these interactions and again try to reach FAR and push that it’s harassment and get a restraining order and technically that way they would have to move or totally only use their front entrance Oct 6, 2024 路 "AITA for refusing to let ‘Karen’ neighbor use my pool after she demanded I follow her pool rules?" So, I (34M) live in a suburban neighborhood with a decent-sized backyard and a pool. We have a son who’s six years old, and they have two kids who are a similar age, but a little bit older. Maybe text neighbor and say she checked with her insurance and it's too much of a liability. That’s the crux of the issue here. So once a year they have a short visit where dad gifts him a dollar, which is paid back to him in rent, and dad writes a receipt. And no I'm not the neighborhood that would use the pool I'm the neighbor that has the pool and yes I don't care if anybody uses it because I like for it to get use and I like to bring joy 2 my neighbors but all my neighbors have pool so I'm lucky New neighbor moved into a newly built home. Yeah my parents live here because they have cheaper rent and have been living here for over 12 years. She (the neighbor) also has her sister and her nephew living with her and her husband, and her nephew is 5, about the same age as my youngest, who will be 5 in September. It's been covid so we've had some minor distanced socialization. We got drunk and forgot (bound to happen on a 3 week vacation with people you haven't seen in 2 years) and we using the pool early on day when he Definitely looking for a spare key, and OP should get a camera and inform the property manager that the neighbor was snooping around on her floor and looking for a way to get in (and for info, too, since she was so insistent on the second dog). I told them he said "oh they need a permit for a pool and to dig in yard. One day I heard my back gate slam shut. Plus, it's your pool, so you and your wife have the ultimate say who gets to use it, and because of that, you are NTA. OP has a space that they use primarily for the sake of being an empty buffer. that's the AH who doesn't get helped out when they need a favor. I have a neighbor (Neighbor A) who had a trampoline. Hell, when I went on vacation for 3 weeks; the villa I rented with my sister and nieces had a pool. Oh man. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Not understanding the YTA comments - the neighbors don’t own certain colors. If a random child can just show up and jump in the pool, then your pool is super shitty. We've recently had some issues with people using the pool after hours. May 19, 2023 路 Reddit AITA is fuming over a couple who asked their pregnant neighbor to "cover up" when she goes for a swim in her pool. I am a private person and need my alone time. The people who BUILT my house (in 1980, pool went in in 1986, and we bought in 2019) originally sold the house because their kids were climbing out of the windows in the 2nd story to jump off the sunroom roof on the first storyinto the shallow end of the pool. AITA for not wanting people at our pool? My fiancé and I own a house with a pool in the backyard. Years ago my neighbors used to skinny dip (and I did in their pool, too) but we tried to be a bit modest as not to make others uncomfortable. 2. This kind of sucks, because the elementary school starts at 8:45 and the middle school started at 9:30, but the high school starts at 7:30. The neighbors behind us tried to hook their fence to ours, effectively cutting off the equestrian easement (which they also have on their property) and they had to tear down what they had just built and run an extra 100ft of fencing that they didn't think they needed. About 45 minutes in two of the kids ran at one of the neighbor guests who was standing next to the pool and pushed her in. Texted the neighbors I had numbers for and asked them to have it moved if they knew who owned it, and to pass it on to other neighbors I didn't have numbers for. Our neighbor allowed his kids to play in the bouncy house anywhere from 8am to 8pm every day. A neighbor kept seeing them do it and told their parents. AITA for not helping my neighbor with her kids after her husband left her Background info: My husband and I (late 20s M&F), have lived next to Jack and Jill for two years. On a side note OP, I hope you enjoy your pool for some time to come, but be warned: the luster of a pool can dull over time as the maintenance can be annoying. Since I've moved in, their yard has been under major renovations. The neighbors dislike it for a few reasons It's ugly Having large mirrors besides the swimming pool makes their teenagers feel insecure about having pool parties or swimming for exercise. There's a dozen ways that neighbor can make the OP's life hard. My neighbor rented a bouncy house for his kids and they had it for the three full weeks. When she (60-ish, F) met us the first time she said she was so happy to have neighbors who are friendly because all the other people in the neighborhood are not. I wish more neighbors would use my house’s color scheme… people seem to be able to come up with some eyesores. And our alley is a hot topic lately with two pools and all the trucks blocking alleys and streets. My neighbor gave me a dirty look and then i went back to my house. The boy and girl then started to ask me for the pool and I said that if their mom wanted to get them a pool, she could do it herself. They just had to wait a little for me. I’ve always been friendly with my neighbors, including Posted by u/Beautiful-Menu-7494 - 2,150 votes and 294 comments It seems the neighbor adked to come to my pool since she has no access to one. Not to mention the dirty dog paws, questionable anal hygiene (OK, not strictly limited to dogs), fleas, ticks, pesticide residue from topical flea/tick preventives, and other reasons you wouldn’t necessarily want a dog in a community pool… My dog is taken care of better than anyone else. When my kids were young, I only trusted them with my husband or I watching them in the pool (or my mom. Throwaway because I know they are on reddit. She was clearly very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene, just went over to where the parents were, grabbed their towels, dried herself The neighbor again said that Mr. I'm a college grad, too. So, Reddit, AITA for wanting my neighbors to ask for permission before allowing their kids to play in my yard? They are very mean and grouchy towards neighbor’s children, complain about everything from people’s cars being parked outside, to the level of noise in other people’s houses, to people’s music, and much more; and they’ve planted a number of large trees and plants that have been invasive of their neighbor’s property, and created a *Turn the defrost on *Brush off the snow *Scrape the ice *Freeze her butt off while regretting being a jerk to neighbor the night before *Learn life's lesson that when you bite the hand of a friendly neighbor, backed by multiple other friendly neighbors, trying the help you, then you get the joy of scraping your own dang windshield. She was clearly very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene, just went over to where the parents were, grabbed their towels, dried herself Her neighbor had an emergency, it was the middle of the night, we have no idea what may or may not have happened to any plans the neighbor had made for dealing with this situation (she clearly had her sister coming to take care of the kids, but again it was the middle of the night and her sister was an hour away), and babysitting for an hour to Edit 2: The neighbor and her kids did go in the pool after me. She was at the pool steps, stumbled in but didn't fall so only got half wet. Regrading, drive way redone, retaining walls, digging and grading for a pool, getting pool in, landscaping, etc. Mar 16, 2025 路 The neighbor was always bringing her kids over to play in the pool that summer and would grumble when it wasn't available because of maintenance. Jun 7, 2022 路 Neighbors demanding a couple relent and allow public access to their swimming pool are being criticized on Reddit. People cross-post stories for a chance that our podcast hosts (Sean, John and Josh) will read the story on the show. I don't see a problem with this. Still no action or response (one neighbor did respond and say they didn't know who it belonged to) in 15 minutes, so I called non-emergency. I understand that this feels nuclear, but if one of those neighbors uses the pool even once and gets injured, without written record that they did not have authorization to use the space, OP and their partner could be held liable. When I told them they can't waste water like this. Legally, you would be liable for incidents relating to your pool, tell neighbors your attorney has advised against sharing your pool. Fast forward to Sunday. These neighbors were very close family friends and I figured one of my parents must have taken the key to go over there and forgot to put it back (we had a permanent key for their house) I had the garage code though so I didn't bother checking with them and just went over. Even if the paint runs, it is OP's property and therefor OP's problem. It sounds like the neighbors said “The old neighbors let us do it” and felt entitled to keep coming over, so stepdad just went along with it to be easy. IN OUR POOL, they had permission, but not bringing everyone, last year one time they brought a bunch of friends and were drinking, and last Fourth of July their kid shit in the pool and the party had to be cancelled, now this year they want to come again, and constinatlly keep swimming, I told them no kids, or grand kids, and only them, am I Simply talk to the neighbors directly and explain that because you are working from home and would like to use the pool by yourselves sometimes, them coming over whenever will not work for you. And their use doesn’t really have the capacity to damage 7 acres of empty Explain to the neighbor with the MRSA that it is highly contagious and your family doctor has advised against sharing your pool. The original post on the AITA Reddit community has exactly 12. Am I the asshole for making her uncomfortable? I'm a bigger guy so it was kind of inevitable as I had to squeeze past her each time. We've had some noise issues, people leaving trash etc, enough that it was being discussed at our recent meetings. 0K upvotes right now, and almost 2. Our neighborhood is full of parents. My friend asked if neighbor could help out some, but neighbor was always "too busy". THIS SUBREDDIT IS FOR A PODCAST CALLED Reddit On Wiki, THAT READS REDDIT STORIES. That doesn't mean you wouldn't like to have your fun coworker or nice neighbor there, but if it's grandma or that one friend from high school who moved cities, it's gonna be grandma. It's quite a big home in a good neighborhood with pool (we wanted a house with pool tbh), I'm an architect and my wife is an interior designer, so before we moved in, we did some works around the house. I politely asked my neighbors to check with us before letting their kids play in our yard, but they seemed offended and said I was being unreasonable. I had an oversized rough collie with a skin condition. I want to be clear I am not accusing you of anything, unfortunately predators aren't lurking in the shadows, they're our family, friends and neighbors. Our community pool has very strict rules about pool usage for children (even more strict now during a pandemic). You don't want that responsibility, especially when you aren't home to supervise things. 9K votes, 186 comments. I had no issue with this whatsoever and continued to use the pool. School is restarting next week, and our fourteen year old is going to highschool. I think the neighbors were rude for putting OP on the spot and making an unreasonable request. The houses that my neighbors once had have been torn down and replaced with “designer” style homes. Mom obviously had no idea that people were going to be there, and made a sarcastic comment about how “I guess the pool belongs to the whole neighborhood. Being in water helps enormously, so I like to spend a good chunk of time most evenings just floating in We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I have a neighbor whose kid is the same age as my oldest kid, 7, and they've been friends since they started kindergarten together two years ago. My neighbors are lovely with a 6&8 yo, perfect fun for my 3 and 5yo. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Apparently, the owners before us had kids and were friends with the neighborhood kids l. My parents share a front yard with the house next door, and had new neighbors a few years ago who were building a pool. We must have yards like OP, because they slope down and could technically flood the neighbors yard. I approached the neighbors but nothing was ever done. I take my shirt off just wearing my swimming trunks, and go right in my pool and start swimming. May 23, 2024 路 We fit in the neighborhood, or so we thought until neighbors from 3 surrounding homes and us got into a weird conversation around their expectations to access the pool for weekend and holiday pool parties. Once they're back home, some people think about the controversy and ask for a second opinion on the Yeah, that doesn’t necessarily matter if they can easily access it. I don't care, or so just mind my business swimming/or I might sit on the chair on the pool just relaxing, minding my own business. Never had any problems with neighbors until recently. You would be legally liable if anything happened to her family while they were using your pool. After the first week I've since stopped and my neighbor will be up to unlock it to let our neighbor in. somewhere I could buy a party package where the *hey neighbor, my kid has a birthday party. little debbie subs her toe, bratty tommy breaks his arm, tiffy has a concussion since andy understood 'head jump' wrong. Based on my calculations they're wasting close to 400,000 litres of water every single day. My other neighbors, who live a little farther away, are about 40 and have a 15 year old son. May 26, 2022 路 However, who cares about these neighbors when we urgently want to put a hot tub in our backyard? This story is actually about those naughty and “entitled” neighbors. Plus you were an extremely wonderful neighbor to begin with for letting her use your winter car. She also doesn't want the expense of getting her own pool. @OP your neighbors have no interest in being your friend. And I would never let them in my backyard when I’m not home. I put one way mirror film on my apartment's large windows which are adjacent to the neighbors backyard. I did not know needed a permit for pool in our town. OP just needs to inform the neighbors she doesn't want them to use the pool. Ie: we wore robes/towels if we weren’t in the pool; they put up a higher fence (6 ft isn’t very effective” and planted some great trees neighbors was ambiguous enough that I wasn't positive this kid belonged to those neighbors. They're a young nuclear family, two parents in their 30's with a little baby. I’ve always been friendly with my neighbors, including “Karen” (mid-40s F) who moved in next door about a year ago. With the construction of these homes came new neighbors and an HOA of which I am not a member. If you can invite 50 people, you can invite basicly just close family and friends. The owners of the property let us know when the pool guy came by to take care of the pool. Our ten and seven year olds are still in elementary. She prides herself in this thinking it makes the neighborhood better when she shames the Smiths for having a fence thats 2 inches too high, or the Johnsons for having light brown door instead They've lived here longer than us but I don't think their pool/yard predates our trees by much, if at all. that's the AH everyone in the area is aware is an AH. Despite what reddit would believe, the odds of your neighbor suing you for premises liability is low, and covered under most homeowners insurance policies. After my first birthday party at home where I was trying to awkwardly entertain the parents, serve the food and cake, clean up, supervise, maintain the schedule etc etc when my daughter turned 4, every party after that was at a trampoline park, arcade, the wave pool, an indoor playground, …. We aren't the type of neighbors to spy into yards or monitor what everyone is doing so we hadn't really noticed that their backyard is a pigsty, at least not until our fence panels had been broken. Guests use the pool I will typically give them some privacy and let them enjoy the backyard unless I might need to pass through on the way to the garage or whatever. May want to talk w/your insurance agent. We told her where we were from the Midwest, and she was even more excited and said Midwestern people are so friendly and she hopes to establish a relationship with us in which we can Some of their neighbors in similar houses live in pairs, some have 6+ people per house. Then, offer times (whether that's certain days or daily timeframes) that work for you. My plane seat neighbor said I made her uncomfortable and accused me of violating her personal space because I had to squeeze by her every time I went to the bathroom (she refused to get up). It would be nice to come up with some zinger line that would burn him to the ground - and that's how it would work on tv - but in reality the best way to cut him off is to keep your interactions with him as short as possible. Memes allowed, shitposts only on weekends. The neighbor might have just moved from a neighborhood where people share parenting and bringing your kids is so expected that you'd be surprised if she showed up without them. a condition of most policies is that coverage is not granted on a policy that was obtained through material misrepresentation. Again I approached the neighbors. X and we did not want them to do this. I went outside to see the neighbor kids running into their yard with their ball. be up front and clear with expectations and boundaries, but otherwise id just say let em. NTA. Not many neighbors would do that, I for one, wouldn't. when i was growing up we had neighbors with a pool who were gone every summer to a place they owned in Hawaii. I had a neighbor in Southern California whose other neighbor’s kid climbed their fence to swim in their pool (a bunch of neighborhood kids had been doing this all summer while the homeowner was at work because it was the only pool around), and the kid ended up drowning. If the neighbors get upset, tell them to purchase their own pool. Jan 2, 2025 路 Tags: · aita, algae, bad neighbor, garden, mosquitos, neighbor, picture, pool, reddit, stories, swimming pool Trending on TwistedSifter So When His Roommate Proposes Pouring Bleach In It, He’s Torn Between Solving The Problem And Potentially Putting Himself In Legal Hot Water. Different groups just have different norms. I don't appreciate uninvited visits, interruptions and disturbances. The neighbors also filed complaints against the cop and police chief (plus some against code enforcement I think). I have an above-ground pool in my backyard. I will admit I messaged her this in a fit of rage but I felt as if all of this was building up in me for the past months. ). We have 10 yo 4th grade girls who've become fast friends. We're also overlooking the claims to the pool! Neighbor brought it up twice, and I suspect based on what's happening here that once the weather is nice, a shortcut to the beach will turn into a dip in the pool. That said, $500/wk before taxes was the most I'd ever made. We met first day of school last year as our kids are in the same grade, with the same teacher, and share a bus stop. Your neighbor does not understand boundaries so you have to be clear that she can't resume her previous behavior. This reader said they’re NTA. OP doesn't have to capitulate to an entitled jerk. Can you please give a schedule to the neighbors of when workers will have to block the My neighbors husband has asked me to apologize, but i don’t think I did anything wrong in telling her the truth. She just wants to use your pool for free because she doesn't want to travel to the nearest public pool. mbsyvjupcyhxeqqrcujgrjvxvkvqcpkpiacayvmrdrhtjsm